Windsor

I'm off to Windsor and in one of my moods, nice. Bye.

Promise 18 change my mood NOW

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Busy Weekend!

We are headed into the Valentines Day Weekend and Mac and I are going away! :) I'm very excited but busy.

Windsor here we come!

Promise 17:  Get up early and clean the house before we go.
Promise update: Chore chart is done but not up. I'm gonna pretty it up before I post it. The idea of the promise was that the chores were assigned so I guess this is a pass... but just barely.

Everyone have a safe and fun weekend. I will be posting and promising but they will be short and sweet.
M - Dare you to get rid of the boy on Saturday and plan a crazy night out with the in-the-dog-house hubby. If it's not a deal breaker might as well get over it sooner rather than later... hmmm??

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M's Promise #8

Not sure why, but I'm running out of promises and quick! When I go home tonight, if my husband and I discuss the recent argument/discussion we had, I promise to try to put myself in his shoes and see the discussion from his point of view. As much as I don't want to b/c I'm ticked.

~M~

Love - Hate, Same thing right?

I hate my daughter.  Yes, you heard me right.. I hate her. Now before everyone goes all judgmental on me, let me clarify... Do I love her? Oh my GOSH, more than I could ever say. Do I LIKE her? Yes, she is smart, funny, charming and beautiful. If more people had her personality, I would have more friends. So why, do you wonder, do I hate her? Good question and the answer is...because of me. A few of my awful genes embedded in her tiny body during conception and didn't mix with my husbands. Ohh how I put stock in my husbands genes diluting all of mine but some got through. This tiny, stubborn, condescending, judgmental, bitch of a streak in that girl that sends me over the edge! My grandmother has it, my mothers sister has it, my mothers sisters daughter has it, my mother had it, I have it and NOW... SHE HAS IT.  Well to say the least- when our streak's flare up on the same day, well, that equals the statement, "I hate my daughter" and if I let her post, "I hate my mother."

Some of you have no idea what I mean. I understand and I even get that you think I'm a nut job. When I just had my son, I would have had a number of comments for someone saying that, including but not limited to, "If you would get your kid under control she wouldn't drive you so crazy. That poor kid deserves a better teacher!" The answer to my pre Princess self, coming from my post Princess self is this... "Pay back is a bitch and you'll get yours." WAIT! What?... that's not what I would say to me, that's what my mom would say to me... hmmm she must of taken over the keyboard from Heaven. Thanks Mom!! but I guess it's true.

Dear Princess is my payback. In every way that she is wonderful, sooo smart, funny and wonderful, she is my payback. She has been sent here with the tools needed to send me flying up walls and spinning in circles. Oh that girl.

mmmmmm hmmmmmmmmm. Ok, I feel better. I can be a better mom now and the moms who already conceived their paybacks, understand and know I'll be a nut job until my payback has her payback! Oh what a day that will be! I love you my dear, dear Lady!

Promise 16: Finish the chore chart. This is an extension of getting organized.

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M's Promise #7

Wow, that looks great!!! I'm so proud of you! I need you to come to my house and work some of that magic!!

Yesterday went well, I wasn't feeling well so I probably would've relaxed all night anyway, but I really just laid in bed all night and watched tv. That was so overly lazy and ridiculous, but it fulfilled my promise!

So, for today's Promise, hmmm, I have such a busy evening already with working today, then parent/teacher conference after work, then my school after that, and then rushing home to watch the Celtics beat the Lakers, on top of dinner, etc. So it's going to be hard to fit something else in. I will be home though, and my laundry is piling up again, so I will do 2 complete loads of laundry.

After!

Update- I did it!! Well, I'm doing it. Here's the thing, I got done posting yesterday and I really called BS on myself. My husband and I own a business. I'd say someone in business 7 years has a bit of office furniture they could part with. So I went to our office today (which we are in the middle of moving so that worked out) and found tons of stuff we didn't need there. Is it exactly what I want in my 'home office'?? No. In fact, the desk I found is really only 1/2 a desk because we really use this at our office in our reception area just for looks so I stole half to use at home and left the other half to 'look' good at the office. The filing cabinet on the other side of the chair is pretty banged up and the lamp in the corner will really go in my living room... once I get that furniture this summer... but it looks pretty good I think and it cost me a grand total  of 4hrs (sorting, driving, moving and cleaning) and $0.00!! Not a spoiled price tag I'd say!

This summer when I get my 'perfect' home office stuff, at least I'll know if I will really use it, what I really need in an office and I will save time NOW, not later. I am so happy about this... but let's be honest, WILL IT LAST? 

Promise 15: weekly pic updates of the 'office'. NOT the cleaned up version, the 9 am on Friday pic once a week for 6 weeks (that's how long it take to form a habit I hear so that why the odd number lol)

Promise 11 update- I'm still calling my loved ones to catch up. Tonight, my bff from SC Steph. She just had a baby and we are planning a trip to see her! It's been almost 6 years. I am so excited!

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M's Promise #6

Yesterday went well, I did not allow myself to get frustrated until about 5pm dealing with my husband. So, I don't really know if I kept this promise or not...Not sure how I was to avoid getting frustrated with him tho but that's another story.

Anyway, Promise #6 - I will do SOMETHING relaxing this evening. Yay!

Laziness = more work

Operation Get Organized! I'm feeling a lot out of whack today. I procrastinate and procrastinate and then FREAK OUT feeling out of control and moody. I'd say laziness breads more work.  What do you think??
This is my current "working conditions." Let analyze this for a minute.

Let's start with my spoiled excuses.
1. This is a new house (9 months)
2. I don't have a desk
3. I don't have a filing cabinet
4. This won't really be an office until we get the doors put in (it's really our dining room that will one day be the 'office') so there is no need to do anything to it
5. I am sick... well at least TODAY I really am
6. ummm... I have two kids (that's a good catch all)
7. I just don't have time

Wow, I ran out of excuses quick. I figured I was way more spoiled than that and could excuse my madness way better... I'm actually really disappointed in my old lazy self for not being able to come up with more reason's this situation is ok!

The "NEW" me look at this pic...
1. A phone book? Really **S**, you didn't even use that to look up a phone number, it was for Princess to sit on
2. Hey dead poisonous Christmas plant... would you come alive if you had that desk spoiled **S** was talking about?? - and FYI I almost retook the picture to exclude it because I was embarrassed!
3. When I get that filing cabinet, what am I going to label the file that includes that random blue and yellow round toy that both me and Pickle don't know the name to?? hmmm, I'll have to think about that?
4. So what papers are on the floor? I said I have two kids and 'can't keep up on this'- let see; tax info, Pickel's homework papers, pictures that you ordered to hang up, bills and ohhh don't forget open trash envelopes and junk mail.  Let's hope my 3 year old know what is what when she picks up the pink highlighter and pens that are down there to color.

Let's be honest, wouldn't you think a person who enjoys being lazy as much as I do would stop causing this much work for themselves? One would think so!

Ok, Ok.. enough bad mouthing of Spoiled **S**... she's about to fix it now!

Promise 14- I'm thinking everyone knows what it is but just in case... it's to fix this madness so I can have a less overwhelming day. No wonder I'm mad at Princess for not giving Pickle and me time to do his homework, it takes me 20 mins to find it!

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M's Promise #5

UGH, that's a really hard question. And I really wish I had an answer. Definitely something I'll continue to think about.

Ok, so Promise #4 was successful. However, my husband now has a lot of his stuff to clean out of the closet, but my part is pretty much done.

Promise #5 - I will NOT get frustrated for the rest of the day. Stress free day no matter how much people annoy me and my hormones start raging.

~M~

Forgiveness Part 2

Here's the thing, I understand that forgiving someone is about helping yourself. I get that you are better off NOT feeling mad and angry and that you will have peace if you forgive and by default have a better existence. The problem I have is this, what if all you really want is that person, who needs the forgiving, to be in your life. How do you know when to allow someone back into your life after they have done something that you are having trouble forgiving? When does a forgiving attitude really just turn into being a push over? I have no idea, I guess it does come down to faith. Faith that you are inviting the right people into your life and faith that you will make the right choices.

Hmmm, I don't know this is making my sick head hurt. I'll have to revisit the idea later.

Promise update: to do list made and things are getting done. Turns out they are helpful.

Promise 13: This promise is already done and is the reason my post is so late. Mac and I are moving our office and he was in some dyer need of help so I stuck around to help. My promise was to stay until work was ready to go. I did and it really sucked because I am sick as *hit!!

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M's Promise #4

Aaw, make me tear up. Thanks for that. It is wonderful to have such a true friend. You are my very best friend. I hope you know you're like a sister to me. But we don't fight, so how cool is that! :)

Well, yesterday's promise went well. Except I can't say I felt like a hottie when I went to Giant Eagle in my high-water bright blue pants. But I had to slip something on to go out, so oh well. My hair was done and my mascara was still on, so people you better look past my ugly pants!!

Promise #4 - I was going to say I won't get stressed out today. But it's a Monday and I'm at work, and it's just not a good day for that. Sooo...that's coming later this week. Today's promise is to clean out my closet! I love my closet but it's horribly cluttered so I WILL clean it today!

By the way Stace, I have been struggling with an answer to your forgiveness question, b/c struggle with this too. But here's the best answer I have so far... We learn about forgiveness the most from the Bible. Now, I'm not an avid Bible reader, and I'm sure it does say to forgive regardless. However, in order to get into Heaven, you have to ASK for forgiveness and MEAN it. That's when I think someone deserves to be forgiven. However, with that, you have to make sure you're not hurting YOURSELF by "hating" them during the time that they are not yet forgiven. These days you hear about people who have murdered someone being forgiven by their victim's family. WTF?! I don't get it. It has to be Faith, that's the only way that would be possible. That's a good future promise for me, work on my Faith.

Thank you M!

Welcome M, YAY! M is one of my few very true best friends in the whole world. She doesn't want to share personal details of her life but she has decided to post promises daily. I'm very excited that she has decided to add to SWO (Spoiled Wives of Ohio)! Thank you so much! I'm already really so excited to read your posts and see what your promises are everyday.  You are one of my very favorite people in life and I love you to death!! I think 2011 is going to be a very empowering year for us! I'll even make you a ticker at the bottom of the page to count down the year! 

We need to agree on a mutual promise to see each other more since we always put that on the back burner!

Promise update - I had a wonderful time talking to my (1) Grandma yesterday!  My list for the week of phone calls ~(2) Grandma and Grandpa B (3) Aunt Jenny (4) Grandma C (5) Steph (6) Dad (7) Aunt Vicki

Promise 12 - Make a to do list... what a concept! and do the things on the list and the quickest available time. hmmm do people do that on Sunday? We will see if lightning strikes me down when I pick up the pen.

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M's Promise #3 (and an additional promise from someone special)

My promise from yesterday was fulfilled. I worked on my homework for over an hour, which was time I would've normally spent watching tv. Yay! So today's promise is a little different -
M's Promise #3 - I promise to feel pretty all day. This is very tough for me. But I started out the day knowing this was my promise so I was able to do some needed pampering...gave myself a pedicure, did my hair and even busted out the curling iron. So far so good! We'll see how the rest of the day goes....

Side note - My son heard of these promises, and decided he wants to make one for the rest of the day...So his promise for the day is to "listen to my parents and don't talk back". Great idea!